While traveling last week, I quickly became anxious after discovering that my flight was delayed and that I might miss my bus to my final destination as a result.
The consequence of missing the bus would be another 2-hour wait for the next bus — something I was not looking…
Every time I watch Shark Tank, I’m always intrigued by the level of tenacity that the Sharks have with some of their offers.
Imagine the opportunity cost if everyone waited until they were 100% ready before…
Having a difficult conversation.
Taking on a new role or project.
Moving across the country or globe.
We’d have far fewer meaningful conversations, take on far fewer impactful projects, and would seldom be inclined to see what…
Next time you feel your emotional state ramping up in response to a stressful or challenging situation:
In the vast majority of instances, the answer is yes, yes, and yes.
Given enough time, most Big Stuff reduces to Small Stuff. (See: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff)
Take heart in knowing this and do your best to adjust your response accordingly.
Good times and bad times are par for any course.
You cannot control all circumstances; you can learn to modulate your response in a way that allows you to 1) achieve an equanimous state of mind in even the most challenging of circumstances and 2) potentiate the best possible outcome.
The importance of most things tends to follow a time-based function:
Some things tend to increase in importance over time, like relationships or high-impact projects.
Other things tend to decrease in importance over time, like a one-off heated disagreement with a colleague or a bad customer experience with a company.
Being aware of the quality of your attention at any given moment is one of the most important things you can do for your well-being.
You can be anxious about a situation that you cannot control or choose to pay attention to something you can control.
You can be frustrated…
“Everything is figureoutable” — Marie Forleo
When faced with a challenging situation, you can develop one of two kinds of thoughts:
You can develop thoughts that weigh you down — thoughts about how frustrating or seemingly untenable the problem is.
Or you can develop thoughts that empower you — thoughts about your ability to find a solution or about what steps you might take to get unstuck.
The first class of thoughts tends to paralyze, while the second class tends to mobilize.
To potentiate a positive outcome, start with confidence, willingness, and hope.
You don’t learn woodworking for its own sake; you learn it so you can build a table or a chair.
You don’t learn how to code for the sake of coding; you learn to code so you can solve engineering problems.
The purpose of knowledge is realized not when you harbor it, but when you find a place to it.
Find a problem you care about, then pursue knowledge — in that order.
It’s almost impossible to be motivated when done the other way around.
Less context will drain you.
More context will energize you.