The unproven path
When we are younger, we often look to others to approximate what the “right” path may be: We decide that we should accomplish this thing, learn that skill, go that way…because it worked for someone else. Choosing to take a path you’ve yet to observe is an inherently risky one…
All you have is your mind
Your mind is the filter through which reality is processed. There is, therefore, nothing hand-wavy or immaterial about the notion of mindset. Your perspective will dictate whether you see endless roadblocks or a way forward. In much the same you way you might go to the gym so you physically feel your best, it’s important to find ways to take care of your mind so you can bring forward the most helpful mindset possible.
Are your standards lowerable?
Are your standards rigid and unwavering, or do they bend and shift according to the context? After Lewis Hamilton’s 2nd placement in the Spanish Grand Prix in the 2023 Formula 1 season, the Team’s Principal Toto Wolff briefly entertained the idea of taking a team photo which historically has been…
Honesty is kindness
We should strive to be maximally truthful to ourselves and others, no matter how inconvenient, undesirable, or difficult it may be at times. The truth is a kind and generous thing to offer — it is the only thing that allows us to assess where we are with clear eyes so that we can figure out how to best move forward. In a college lecture, Nvidia CEO Jensen Hang said the key to being successful is “learning to fail quickly and to change courses as soon as you know it’s a dead end…the way to do that [is to] assess on a continuous basis whether something makes sense or not. And if it’s the wrong decision, let’s change our mind.”
What does this moment require?
When neuroscientist Dr. Amishi Jha asked a retired army general what a common feature was among successful people, he responded with a trait he calls “pivot leadership” — the ability to clear all residue from the last event or meeting before the next one. This ability to reset your attention…
The next step
Trying to think through everything you have to do in a large project is paralyzing. Practically speaking, it really only makes sense to be focusing on the next few steps. Before you thinking about running a marathon, focus on your first mile. Before thinking about your first mile, focus on your first 100 yards. Before thinking about the first 100 yards, focus about your first few steps. Your mind doesn’t need to be thinking about all of these things at once.
The little things
One of my fondest memories from childhood is sitting at the dining room table at my family’s place in Taiwan, eating a bowl of rice. By most accounts this would be a totally mundane experience, yet for me, for reasons that even I don’t fully understand, it’s a special memory. It also reminds me that even the smallest of moments of life can be sources of joy: Someone getting the door for you, or you getting it for them.
You cannot multitask
You cannot multitask. You can rapidly switch between tasks, but it doesn’t bode well for making the progress you’re convinced you’re going to make. When you switch from Task A to Task B, part of you is going to be thinking about Task A; the inverse is also true when…
You will find a way
Regarding the challenge(s) you’re going through: You do not need to have the answers right now. In fact, no one has all the answers. The more useful expectation to have is that you will eventually find a way forward. The idea of believing in yourself gets a bad rap sometimes…